Facebook and Twitter for Baby Boomers

older couple1 Facebook and Twitter for Baby BoomersFace it, Mark Zuckerberg (inventor of Facebook) didn’t create it for folks like us — he created it for a bunch of college kids to hook up with each other.  Yet, baby boomers are flocking to Facebook, Twitter and other social network sites — they even have a few of their own trying to get off the ground.  Use of social networks by baby boomers increased by 88% between 2009 and 2010 to the point where now more than 50% of baby boomers use at least 1 social network, according to a study by eMarketer. Even more surprising is the rise in social network use by the mature population slightly older than the baby boomers — 63-75.  This growth far exceeds the growth in social media use by any other demographic and flies in the face of declining use among Millennials (the youngest gen Xers).

Baby boomers join social networks for the same reasons everyone else does — to keep up with friends and relatives and reconnect with friends from their past.  Increasingly, they’re using social networks like LinkedIn to find new jobs, search for employees, and build professional relationships.  New social networking sites also help baby boomers connect with potential mates — just like early users of Facebook.

For people already on Facebook or another social network, I’ll post some of the intricacies of using these sites without embarrassing your friends and family.  For the other half of you not currently using social networking, here’s your tutorial.

How to Create a Profile on Facebook?

Creating a Facebook profile is really simple.  Just go to Facebook by selecting the link, give them your email address and select a password you can easily remember.   Don’t be confused by all the aspects you can edit about your profile, you can work on them later.

You can fill in information about how you are, where you went to school, etc, but you DON’T have to give them anything else.  You SHOULD go in and set your privacy controls to make sure things are only shared with people you want to share with.  You can share with everyone or select who you want to share things with.  It’s up to you.

You probably want to upload a picture — as your profile picture.  If you have a smart phone, you can take a picture and upload it to directly into Facebook (you may have to set up your phone, but that’s simple, too).  Otherwise load any digital picture of you on your computer and upload it to Facebook or to a service like Flickr.

 

The Tour of Facebook

The basic set-up for Facebook is a picture in the upper left corner — if you haven’t uploaded a picture you’ll see a silhouette instead.  Beneath the picture are tabs — actually links to different parts of your Facebook site.

You’ll notice you have a wall — this is where you’ll read stuff posted by your “Friends”.  At first you won’t notice much — you’ll have to start inviting friends to join you.  So, all you’ll see for now our your status updates — things you want to share.  If you add someone as a friend, they’ll be able to see anything you post to your updates, even if it’s added before they’re friends with you.

You’ll have a profile where you can look at your profile the way everyone else sees you — and you can edit it here, too.

You’ll see other tabs for photos of you — either ones you uploaded or ones friends uploaded and identified as you — and friends.  Once you start adding friends you’ll see their pictures below the tabs.

Across the top you’ll see pictures.  These are the top 5 pictures of you and you can change them by adding more photos — they’re replace older ones.

Along the right side you’ll see suggestions of people you may know.  If you want, you can add them as a friend but they’ll have to approve you before you’ll start seeing stuff they post.  You’ll also see some ads (annoying, but necessary, I guess).  On the far right is a new strip added last week — this contains stuff that used to be on your wall, but now Facebook considers it useless information.  Accordingly, friends updating their profile picture, liking a post or a brand, accepting someone else’s friend requests, or attending an event are all relegated to the far right, while stuff you’re likely to find more interesting still goes to your wall.

 

I Wanna Do-Over: Adult Proms Growing

briana evigan11 I Wanna Do Over: Adult Proms GrowingArticle first published as I Wanna Do-Over: Growth of Adult Proms on Technorati.

Remember prom?  It was a special, magically night you dreamed about for years — yearning for your chance to indulge in expensive clothes and the attention of hairstylists, manicurists and make-up artists.  You had the chance to feel like a queen for a few hours.  Only your wedding day was more special.

Well, you might get a chance to re-live prom if you live near one of an increasing number of cities hosting Adult Proms, according to the New York Times.  Adults, mainly in their 20′s and 30′s, but some into their 60′s, are attending adult proms; complete with the crowning of a King and Queen.  Many things about these proms are the same as the ones we went to in high school — a band, an elegant dinner, and everyone dressed-up in new finery.  Its a chance to break up the humdrum of lives full of other people’s needs and be a little self-indulgent for a change.

Some things, of course, are different.  Alcohol is no longer forbidden.  And, the chances of getting lucky are pretty good.  But, some of the bad memories of prom are also re-lived.  There’s the table of women sitting there hoping someone will ask them to dance, the guy who leaves his date searching for him all night, and the inevitable let-down when its all over and you have to go back to reality.

Why are adult proms increasing in popularity? For some, an adult prom is a way to have the night you never got or to re-live that special night.  Adults may look back at prom and wish they’d done things differently so adult proms give them a chance.  Others are late bloomers and feel more ready for prom now without earlier inhibitions.  Plus, it’s a great stress reliever to just go out and have some fun.  Most raise money for charities, so it’s another way to give back to your community.

But I think the biggest reason for the growth in adult proms is we have so few real connections in our lives that we grow nostalgic for high school days when we were surrounded by friends every day.  In his book, Bowling Alone, Robert Putnam chronicles the decline in community engagement — the block parties, church socials, garden club meetings, and, yes, bowling leagues – that filled our days with activity and interpersonal relationships.  Now our days are full of driving carpool, running errands, and watching TV.  In an increasing number of households, families don’t even watch TV in the same room and often don’t eat together.  Communication is exchanged via text messages and Facebook status updates.  We’re social creatures and need association with others.  Adult proms give us a chance to re-live a time when we were constantly surrounded by others and enmeshed in our real social network (before Facebook). For 1 night we can pretend our lives are full of rich social connections.

Unfortunately, it’s not so easy to go back to that earlier experience and, like Cinderella, we wake up the next morning in the same isolation we lived before our dream night.  Unlike Cinderella, however, there’s no Prince to find us and make our dream a constant reality.  Instead, we have only ourselves to make our lives what we want them to be everyday.  We need to take the first step — join a club, schedule lunch with friends, plan a group trip to a nearby area, or form a bowling league.

What will you do?